And when our once beloved partner is no longer of use to us, we call our lawyer and instruct him/her to initiate divorce proceedings.
Funny, but despite its harrowing and complex web, divorce has also become just a phone call away, a “to go” solution that we can pick up on the way to the cleaners.
Truth is, divorce has an ugly side to it. It’s the easy way out for people who have not an ounce of courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged.
Divorce un-builds and undoes what took years to nurture, and sadly, often the only people who benefit from it are greedy lawyers who will use every trick in the book to divest the other of assets, until no remnant of the person’s investment – physical, monetary or emotional – remains.
While divorcing couples spend their mental energies accusing the other of causing hurt and disharmony in the union, they forget that the children suffer in double doses. Couples forget that children’s emotions are more fragile and harder to mend. This is when the concept of human selfishness and self-centredness become transparent. It’s odd how the true character of people comes out when they’re the actors in a divorce.
The determination not to be swayed by the lows and downs of a relationship mirrors strength and integrity, not to mention the ability to see beyond one’s personal unhappiness. And by saving a marriage, more than one human being is saved.
This is the essence of this book. Perhaps it’s one the most important book you’ll ever read.